Episode Transcript
[00:00:01] Friends.
[00:00:04] Today's video is sponsored by Friends.
[00:00:07] Not the TV show, but those real ones, those real people, the good ones, the deep ones, the soul connecting ones, the ones you see only every few years and that's okay. The ones you maybe talk to every day. The ones you wish you talked to every day. The ones who are maybe not quite landed yet, but you hope they will.
[00:00:31] The ones who have been around since you were 14.
[00:00:34] The ones who have been around for 14 days.
[00:00:38] The ones who will be around for another 14 days. The ones who will Be around for another 14 years.
[00:00:46] I had a conversation yesterday with a friend and I just, I just let it all out.
[00:00:53] I've got a lot going on at the moment and I just thankfully he was a.
[00:01:03] An open ear for me and just let me tell my story. And he listened. And that's what good friends do, listen without judgment and with care and concern and patience.
[00:01:21] And I'm not sure there's, not sure there's a whole lot much better on the planet than having a deep connection with someone and being able to be honest and truthful and transparent and you watching.
[00:01:39] So I'm thankful to him.
[00:01:43] I'm thankful to other friends, past friends, friends who maybe were no longer so much in contact. But then if we do get in contact, it's just like, just like we never disconnected, you know, if you follow me at all, you know that my kids have left the house.
[00:02:07] I'm not kidding, I'm joking. My little cry there, it's not. Or not. I'm not joking.
[00:02:12] It's a thing. It's a thing and it's real.
[00:02:17] And also if especially known my videos and you'll know both my parents have passed away, even my mother in law and brother in law. And so family got my sister and other scattered family.
[00:02:36] But friends, have I mentioned friends?
[00:02:40] You know, friends. So I was born in the US and the word friend and I know the Europeans make fun of the Americans with the word friend because they say, oh, you're my best friend, you know, knowing you for like half an hour. And I get it, I get it, honestly, I, I'll take the American route. Frankly, I'd rather have sort of like you're my friend than hi, we will have tea 14 times over the course of 7.2 years. And then I'll give you a shout out to the Dutchies, you know what I'm talking about there. But then they're real and they're deeper and I get it, I get it.
[00:03:16] So friends might be in the American sense, might Be a little light from my little.
[00:03:22] My little monologue here today with Pepper in the. In the woods.
[00:03:26] So take your pick of words. You know, I always think soulmate is kind of cheesy. It's like a Hallmark card, but there's something about connection.
[00:03:36] Know there's a good word. Is. Want to know a good word?
[00:03:40] Commit. Commitment.
[00:03:41] It's a biggie, right? Commitment. What does that mean and at what level?
[00:03:46] And how are you committing?
[00:03:48] You want another good one?
[00:03:50] Want another good one? I've learned recently. Not learned, but it's been sort of re. Emphasized. Transparency. Honesty.
[00:03:59] What is your. What is your soul's purpose?
[00:04:02] And are you listening to it? Are you living it?
[00:04:05] Dare I quote her and say? Are you embodying it?
[00:04:10] Do tell. Bradley.
[00:04:13] I'm feeling so much lighter since my conversation yesterday.
[00:04:18] I must have rattled on for three hours for the poor guy.
[00:04:22] I know you're watching. Well, I think you're watching. And I thank you once again, even though I thanked you a million times yesterday, but gave me some clarity. You know what it gave me, gave me clarity, courage, and confidence. You know, who offers those things? Oh, wait, I do.
[00:04:40] How you doing?
[00:04:41] You doing out there?
[00:04:43] You got some friends?
[00:04:45] You got a varying degree, like the. On the. On the bandwidth or the spectrum of, you know, some lights and some heavies and some fun and some fantastics and some fantastical and some fantasies and some of them that just embody all of them.
[00:05:05] You got some of those.
[00:05:08] Do you cherish them?
[00:05:11] Do you love them?
[00:05:13] You know, love is an interesting word.
[00:05:16] I often say how there is so much love. And I. It is deep in my core that I don't only believe it, but I live it.
[00:05:24] There is so much love. I have so much love to give.
[00:05:28] I have.
[00:05:30] I have so much.
[00:05:32] Whoa.
[00:05:35] I got it. We got it, Pepper.
[00:05:37] I have so much love to give.
[00:05:44] Talking about confidence with my.
[00:05:47] My Polish pal, she was saying how, you know what? Deeper than confidence, though, is self love.
[00:05:55] I've got a lot of that, too.
[00:05:57] You know what self love is handy for?
[00:05:59] It's handy for loving others.
[00:06:02] It's handy for sharing your love.
[00:06:05] It's handy for giving it out. You know? All right, I'm going to quote myself here. Love is like that digital file.
[00:06:14] Whereas if I duplicate it, now I have two. I had one, now I have two. And all I had to do is copy it. I have more, right? And when I. When I make more love, I get more love, too. I'm giving it now you have some, and I still have mine. And you have some of mine.
[00:06:31] And now we both have some. And did it decrease the love that I had? No. Did it increase the love that you have? I hope so. Did it increase the love? All right, here we go. I'm going Hallmark in the world.
[00:06:43] Yeah, it did.
[00:06:47] Who do you love out there? Have you told them? Have you told them? Do you mean it?
[00:06:52] Did you say it in a rush of frenzy, of feelings?
[00:06:59] Do you regret it?
[00:07:00] I don't.
[00:07:06] And yet varying forms of love, varying forms of friendship, and then you get into, like, the modern world, where there's classifications and categories and can't step over lines and follow the rules and all that, and yet, you know, who makes the rules and where are the boundaries and getting into dangerous territory. So what do you do with that?
[00:07:36] And how do you work through it? And how do you play through it? And how do you make sure both sides come on? Peps.
[00:07:48] Sorry. Hope that wasn't too loud.
[00:07:51] There's a good friend, that guy, because he is unconditional love at its finest.
[00:07:58] He is absolutely no conditions whatsoever.
[00:08:05] There's some more love over there.
[00:08:09] That's conditional. He's on a leash.
[00:08:11] That was bad.
[00:08:16] All right. Friends.
[00:08:20] You know what I want to do with friends?
[00:08:22] I want to be with them.
[00:08:25] I want to connect with them. I want to communicate with them, I want to commit with them.
[00:08:30] I want to hang out in Italy with them. I want to hang out in the Netherlands with them. I want to hang out in Austin, Texas, with them.
[00:08:36] San Francisco, Bali, South Africa, China, Hong Kong, Mexico City, Canada, Portugal, southern Spain, Germany, France, Pisa.
[00:08:56] You know, there's this deeper connection. And when you can reach this connection of depth of the connection, this is not going to make mathematical or physics sense, but it allows a lightness to blossom that if you're pushing and trying to. And working towards it and trying to force it into a mold or a frame or a box, and it might not fit, and you might think it doesn't fit.
[00:09:32] And yet when there is that deep connection, then the other elements can blossom.
[00:09:44] The lightness, the laughter.
[00:09:49] As my Polish pal would say. The laugh, the love.
[00:09:54] L, U, F, F. Right. Is it L O, V, E or is it L, A, U, G, H? And when you can play with those two, then you've. You've arrived, you've derived at a level of connection where everything's okay and there's transparency and honest, And there's lot, and there's love and there's laugh and there's laugh.
[00:10:20] Because laugh is a combination of love and laugh.
[00:10:24] And for me, now we're talking the good stuff.
[00:10:28] Now we're really getting down into it, right?
[00:10:31] I mean, really, what else do you need?
[00:10:35] Love and laugh.
[00:10:39] So it makes you live.
[00:10:41] Why are we living? We're living to love and to laugh. If you can get both of that. Both of those. Love and laugh.
[00:10:49] Wow. One friend.
[00:10:54] What's that? Love, right? What? It can take many forms.
[00:11:00] Sometimes you gotta let it settle to see what form it's going to land in. Sometimes it's very clear from the beginning and sometimes just needs a little time, a little space.
[00:11:13] Ah, man.
[00:11:15] Where are we heading? There's a big snake over there. There was a big snake over there. See, in my little pond. Isn't it cute?
[00:11:23] So I don't want Pepper to get.
[00:11:25] Can you imagine him over here filming and Pepper's over there getting squeezed by, like, a python? Like Pepper? No, Like, I'm almost done with my video, I swear.
[00:11:39] How you feeling? What's it going?
[00:11:42] Still watching this? You still hanging out with me?
[00:11:45] Why are you still hanging out with me?
[00:11:47] Why? Let's analyze it. Because I'm talking about important stuff, and maybe you haven't worked through it or, dare I say, played through it or allowed through it or surrendered to it.
[00:12:00] And so when's that gonna happen?
[00:12:04] And I'm. It's funny. I am a mostly very patient person. Although I've realized, especially very recently, I am extremely impatient when I deeply care.
[00:12:16] So, like, yeah, okay, that's great, Bradley. You're really patient for, you know, the.
[00:12:21] The new toothbrush to come in the. In the mail, but you're not patient for the important stuff. Yeah. How's that working out for you?
[00:12:29] Yeah, well, it's actually working out okay, but it's. It's hard.
[00:12:34] Friends, that's where we started out. Not that show from the 80s, but the real ones. And we're looking for other words. What do you got? You got other words for me? For friends.
[00:12:44] And. And we can. I know. We can go Hallmark. That's fine. You know, I'm okay with Hallmark.
[00:12:50] Soulmates. It's kind of cheesy.
[00:12:52] Deeper connection.
[00:12:55] What do we call them? Spiritual survivors? Spiritual slayers? Spiritual.
[00:13:04] I need the alliteration, right? Ss what can we do with sss?
[00:13:08] Spiritual savvy.
[00:13:11] Snakes.
[00:13:13] No, I have a bit of a fear of snakes, I have to say. Okay, I'm clearly rambling as I'm talking about snakes. Where were we? I think we were talking about, like, the depth of laughter and love and friendship and how we build it and how we need to be patient for sometimes and chill and just let it. Let it land and let it filter and let. Let the seeds, you know, blossom in. In the earth and let the roots grow and let the branches sprout and see how big the tree gets. And the. And the roots go deep and the branches go high.
[00:13:47] Feels good, right? Those branches. I mean, that's what we're looking at. We're just looking at the branch. Like roots are. Roots are like thunder. Roots are like underrated.
[00:13:57] Roots are the important stuff. I tend to forget this because I'm very much like a high branch. Pretty leaf.
[00:14:04] Top of the Amazon.
[00:14:06] What do they call that thing?
[00:14:08] Canopy. That's a good word. Canopy at the top of the jungle.
[00:14:14] What do you think of friends?
[00:14:17] What's your definition of friends?
[00:14:19] How are friends working out for you? Leave me a comment. I want to know. This discussion Is. It's. I mean, are we heavy here? Are we heavy and serious and right. Or are we light and fun? Are we. At that point, when are we going to get there? Right?
[00:14:35] Because for me, the best of friends, the best of these connections, these soulmates, are when it is light and we can get deep, we can go deep. I like going deep. It's fun.
[00:14:47] It's good.
[00:14:48] It's important.
[00:14:51] But there's that lightness, that poke, that joke, that little flirt.
[00:14:57] It's fun, too.
[00:14:59] It is fun. It's important.
[00:15:01] Keeps us alive.
[00:15:06] All right, let me wrap this up. Pepper's got. Pepper's busy over there. Speaking of French. Got other friends coming.
[00:15:13] Things to do, clearly.
[00:15:16] Shout out to my man yesterday for. For bringing it home for me, spending the time and lending me your ear, as they say.
[00:15:26] And I really. I really am grateful for it, and I accept it with gracious.
[00:15:40] You like that? I don't even. I'm not even gonna delete any pauses.
[00:15:46] I'm just going for it because this is the real thing. If you're wondering if this is AI or not, I am, like, just out of bed. I am. I'm going full scruff mode here. Hat, glasses, crappy T shirt, the whole thing. I'm going for it. Why? Because I am an authentic human.
[00:16:04] Can I live my life with no apologies or. Not many, but really mostly none.
[00:16:14] I try to live with no regret.
[00:16:17] I live in the moment.
[00:16:18] I live with abundance of love.
[00:16:22] I have lots to share, lots to receive, and I hope you do, too. And I hope this has inspired you or uplifted you to shout out to that friend. Just text message, little hello, a little hey, I'm I'm.
[00:16:38] I'm alive.
[00:16:39] And I hope you're laughing, because I'm. I'm gonna be laughing.
[00:16:43] I'm gonna be laughing forever. I'm gonna be loving forever, too. But laughing, they go together.
[00:16:51] It's not. Love isn't deep and heavy and can be. But the good stuff, that's. The light stuff, and that's how you can get to the depth, is through that laughter. Because the laughter, it's sort of like, you know, it opens your jaw sort of, you know, it physically opens your jaw. Ha ha ha.
[00:17:08] And it. It just lets it come in.
[00:17:13] So here's an invitation to that level of connection of laughter and lightness.
[00:17:19] And we can bring it back. We can bring it down to the depths of. Of love. It's important, but I shouldn't say depths of love as. As if it's a bad thing. Not at all.
[00:17:27] The best deep love is light.
[00:17:33] How we doing today, huh? Hey, I'm at 17 minutes. It's kind of my number. I'm gonna wrap it up. It's love. It's love and laugh. And what does that give us? Laugh. Love yourself into yourself. Love yourself into love, into friendship.
[00:17:47] Go say hi to a friend. Give him a note. Tell me, love him.
[00:17:51] See you next time. Bye for now.
